SAM’S BLOG
Your New Colleague: How to Talk to Your Ex
A common issue that arises with divorcing couples is that they get into fights about how one talks to the other. "I can't stand it when she yells at me and I'm not going to take it." "When he speaks in that condescending tone to me I want to hit him with something."...
Alimony For Men
Twenty years ago it was almost unheard of for a husband to get alimony. But now it is no longer so unusual. In about one third of two income couples women earn more than their husbands. In a few cases the wife is wildly successful and out earns her husband...
Some Protocols for Parenting after Divorce
In almost all divorces involving children both parents will have the children part of the time. After many years in the same home it takes some time before both the children and parents settle comfortably into new routines. This creates some challenges that need to be...
The Seven Myths about Divorce – Myth # 7 Who gets custody will be determined by what is in the best interests of the child.
Myth # 7: Who gets custody will be determined by what is in the best interests of the child. One of the abiding myths of divorce is that the judge will determine what is in the best interests of the children and award custody accordingly. Although there are very few...
The Seven Myths about Divorce – Myth # 6 Divorce has to Cost a Lot of Money
Myth # 6 Divorce has to Cost a Lot of Money The average legal fee for divorce has been estimated at about $20,000 per client. Times two that is a very expensive transaction. But such legal fees are not inevitable. Let's ask what people are getting for that money....
The Seven Myths about Divorce – Myth # 5 If I leave the house I’ll be accused of abandonment
There comes a time in every divorce when a couple must physically separate. A divorce begins when one partner tells the other that she/he wants a divorce. Although there may be a plea from the non initiator, the one who is told, that they work on and try to save the...
The Seven Myths about Divorce – Myth # 4 I Have to Worry about Hidden Assets
Myth # 4 I have to worry about Hidden Assets. Many people getting divorced are worried that their spouse, typically the husband, is hiding money to avoid having to share it. Many would be advisors warn about this and many lawyers worry that if they don't do an...
The Seven Myths about Divorce – Myth # 3 Divorce Usually Requires a Fight
Myth # 3 Divorce Usually Requires a Fight Consider how many movies, television programs, magazine articles and books depict divorce is a big battle. Divorce presented as a soap opera with celebrities battling through expensive lawyers and public relations firms is a...
The Seven Myths about Divorce – Myth # 2 You Need an Aggressive Lawyer
Myth # 2 You Need an Aggressive Lawyer. When you begin your divorce, friends and relatives often encourage you to find the most aggressive lawyer in town. This is based on several erroneous assumptions. First, there is the assumption that the aggressive lawyer will be...
The Seven Myths about Divorce – Myth #1
Every year divorcing couples waste billions of dollars fighting each other in litigation. I use the word "waste" here because the money spent does not produce anything of value. Most of those couples could have obtained better results at much lower cost if they were...
About Sam
Sam Margulies - Guiding you to a good divorce.Ph.D. J.D.
Divorce Mediator
Consultant / Trainer on Conflict Resolution