Deciding to Divorce

Six Symptoms of Impending Divorce

The next time you are in a restaurant look for the sad couple eating dinner in silence. They make little or no eye contact and have little or no conversation. They are completely disengaged and are simply enduring the meal until they can finish and leave. That’s a...

Good divorce vs. Bad divorce

To understand the differences between a good divorce and bad divorce requires a distinction between the two things: the fact of the divorce and the way of the divorce. The first refers to the losses that usually accompany the end of a marriage. There are inevitable...

Framing The Decision to Divorce

I am frequently consulted by people who have decided to divorce but are procrastinating because they feel guilty about ending the marriage. I also see many couples in which the partner who doesn't want the divorce chides the one who is initiating with the question:...

Telling Your Spouse You Want a Divorce

Initiating the Divorce The important problem at the beginning of the divorce is whether the decision is mutual. Very few divorces begin when two married people simultaneously decide to divorce. Usually, one of the partners reaches the decision first. That person, whom...

Divorce is Not Just About Law

One of the most pervasive and unfortunate myths about divorce is that it is essentially a legal matter. For most people considering divorce, the first step appears to be to find a lawyer to tell you about “your rights.” So, the first stop is for a consultation with a...

Do You Need Divorce Consultation?

For most people divorce is a scary and confusing process. Law, lawyers and courts seem intimidating. You worry if you and your children will be alright. You hear the horror stories as well-meaning, but ill-advised friends and relatives vie to give you advice. But most...