Managing Your Lawyer
Divorce and the American Legal System: a Poor Fit
It is in the field of divorce that the image of lawyers finds its most odious expression and where legal training is most disabling and counterproductive. Divorce lawyers have a terrible reputation among the lay public for being cynical, indifferent to suffering and...
The Do It Yourself Divorce
I have long been convinced that with a few scalpels and clamps that I could remove my own appendix in a pinch. But that conviction does not mean that it is a good idea to attempt, nor does it mean I could survive the operation. And so it goes with many of life’s tasks...
Lawyers and Unnecessary Pain
Although I am not a great fan of divorce lawyers, I generally do not go out of my way to vilify them. I think that their organizational and professional culture is essentially destructive. They have inherited a system that is a poor fit with its task of disassembling...
My Lawyer Seems Friendly With My Spouse’s Lawyer. Should I Worry?
Many people believe that an adversary legal system means that lawyers must fight with each other. People also believe that lawyers must be aggressive in order to be effective. The swaggering, loud and pugnacious lawyer is assumed to have an advantage in that he/she is...
Should I Fire My Lawyer?
About half of divorcing people report that they are unhappy with their lawyers and ask themselves "Should I fire my lawyer?" Some are so unhappy that they fire their lawyer and hire another one. And some of those people find that they are just as unhappy with the new...