Divorce Coaching

What is Divorce Coaching?

Divorce coaching helps you make informed decisions to create a fair and acceptable agreement for both parties. By having a divorce coach, you are assured that all the decisions you must make throughout the divorce process are made well.

Making the right decisions requires an understanding of how the divorce system works. You need a coach who:

  • Understands the legal process, the emotional process, and how the two processes interact.
  • Can provide good information and will patiently walk you through your options.
  • Will support you emotionally as you work through the process and make the decisions that will shape your divorce and your future.

How Does Divorce Coaching Work?

With more than 35 years of experience as a divorce lawyer and mediator, I have helped thousands of couples achieve amicable and constructive divorces. I know:

  • How the system works
  • I understand how the emotional process of divorce interacts with the legal process and how a decision in one affects what happens in the other.

I can help you avoid actions that destroy the chance of amicable divorce.

  • Where you need to learn about divorce, I can teach you.
  • I can explain the economic, emotional, and practical issues of divorce.
  • And when you are struggling with difficult decisions I can coach you to reach the best decisions for you and your family.

I provide expert, informed and wise counsel at any stage of a divorce.  As your divorce coach, I can help you:

  • Avoid the common mistakes very early in the process that sour a divorce before it even begins
  • Decide whether you want conventional representation or mediation and help you choose the right professional.
  • Develop realistic expectations of your lawyer and help you hold your lawyer accountable.
  • If you have developed a bad relationship with your lawyer, I can help you take charge and make a change.

How Virtual Divorce Coaching Work?

Despite some differences most state’s divorce laws are essentially similar. A few states have community property while most have “equitable distribution.” But even though these are different laws, in practice most divorces are resolved with an equal division of marital property.

A few states don’t have alimony. But in those that do have alimony it only appears in about 15% of divorces. That is because in most marriages both spouses are employed and have incomes. So as a practical matter differences in state laws do not affect most divorces.

What is important is that no matter where you live all divorces have to solve the same problems.

  • How do we organize to share parenting in a way that is good for all family members?
  • How do we distribute available income so that we make the most efficient use of resources so that all members of the family thrive?
  • How do we divide our property so that we all have a fair share?
  • And finally and most important, how do we go about deciding these things in a way that doesn’t leave us emotionally and financially exhausted.

The critical questions must be answered no matter where you live.

Because I have been helping people answer these questions for more than 35 years, and because I understand how the emotional process of divorce interacts with the legal process I help people throughout the US resolve their divorces without bitterness and unnecessary pain. Whether we work face to face in the same room or face to face on video conference makes no difference.